Believe it or not, everyone needs to have some fantastic, solid friendships. Yes, you have your family; you maybe have a husband or wife, and maybe you have kids, but all of these relationships can be pretty heavy sometimes – and that’s where friends come in.
Why they’re great
Okay, so we all know that friends are great to spend time with. You can have a few laughs, enjoy some time hanging out and doing things you both enjoy, and hopefully enjoy some pleasant conversation. But, there’s more to friends than just the occasional back yard barbecue or lunch meeting. We often call friends when we have problems. If work or life becomes too stressful, close friends will listen and help us to see that things will get better – and maybe they aren’t that bad to begin with.
Friends help us to feel like we belong, and in a way, they help to carry heavy emotional burdens with us, so we don’t have to cope with tough times alone. Friendships can help to ease stress, anxiety and even the occasional heartache.
How to make them
You can make friends at any time of your life. Usually, all it takes is a conversation, a few words, and pow – there’s a like, or a connection. That’s how many friendships start. Some of us are lucky enough to have friends that we’ve had since school, but some of us have newer friends. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been friends; it’s the quality of the friendship that makes all the difference.
If you’re feeling short on friends, it’s time to make some effort. No matter where you are, you can make friends, so be open to that conversation and a chance to click. Enjoy some conversation and then – much like dating – pursue friendships with those that you notice a connection.
You don’t have to talk every day. You don’t have to spend time all the time, but you should make attempts to get together in some way with your new friends and develop your friendships.
How to keep them strong
Friendships have a tendency to take a back seat to life events, so it’s essential to connect as much as possible. Even if you don’t have time to get together, make a call, have a conversation and just take time to be in the moment with your friends.
You can enjoy group friendships, but you can make each individual friendship stronger by spending time with one friend at a time. This way, you get to know your friends individually and can build strong bonds.
When you have time, get together. Go to the movies, have a night out, go to lunch or shopping. Play golf, or have a barbecue. It doesn’t matter, as long as you’re spending time with your friend and bonding with each other.
Friendships are essential. They can happen in the strangest places, and ways, but when you find a friend, you should not only enjoy them, but you should try to keep the friendship strong.